Dating someone should be nice and without any drama, but if you are dating a narcissist be careful, you can be easy missing the signs that he or she has a narcissistic personality disorder.
Knowing about NDP or how this disorder is manifesting doesn’t usually make it easier to stop a narcissist, especially if you are in a romantic relationship with them. Most of the time it is not possible to see if someone has NPD without consulting an expert.
According to the Mayo Clinic, people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder take advantage of others to get what they want, they also think that they are superior to others, don’t think about other people feeling, have difficulties to control their emotions, but also they become irrationally angry when they don’t have treatment they think they deserve.
These are some often signs that you may be dating a narcissist:
It starts like a fairytale, but later…
At the beginning of the relationship, he/she will give you everything just to win you over. They will use their charisma to flirt with you, get your attention. They will buy you presents, take you to dinners, text you and call you every day. He or she is not really interested in you and to make you feel special (even though it may look like that), they just want to get what they want. When they have what they need and want, their behavior will change and you will see who they really are.
“Just give me some compliment!”
Although narcissist may seem superior and with high self – esteem, they actually need someone who will appreciate and recognize everything they do. They are insecure and because of that, they are usually talking about themselves in a good way and about their big accomplishments. Some of the narcissists can even lie to make them look better or smarter then they are.
“You will do what I need and want”
Narcissists put their needs and wish first, so they are capable to manipulate you just to get what they want. But, if they don’t get what they want, and can’t stand rejection and disappointment, they can easily react negatively or get angry. Because they expect people to cater to their need, they don’t have the ability to see or feel how another person is feeling – lack of skill to see, understand and accept other people feelings.
“You are just not good enough”
If your partner is teasing you, making you feel bad, insult you it is possible that he/she is a narcissist. At the beginning everything was fine, but after a while, everything you do, wear, watch, eat is a problem for them. They will pull you down, even when you are with friends narcissist will make jokes just to make you feel bad. They want to show how powerful and important they are, so they are using their partner to do that by lower his/her self- esteem.
Lack of commitment
If you and your boyfriend/girlfriend have been dating for a while, and he/she doesn’t want to make a serious commitment, this can also be a sign that he/she is a narcissist. They just don’t like to be intimate with someone, and usually, don’t make a quality relationship (with love partner or friends)
Conclusion: Being in a relationship with a narcissist and someone who is always thinking of themselves, criticizing you for almost everything and not committing to you can be emotionally exhausting. You just need to ask yourself if you want to be in that kind of relationship and is this good for your mental health.
Narcissist and their true behavior are highly unlikely to change, they are only capable of changing if they self – reflect and go to therapy.