There is almost no girl who at least once in her life did not find herself in this situation. How do you interpret this behavior?
Maybe he has a lot of problems or business difficulties. Maybe he likes me a lot, but he is shy or afraid of love. Hmm, perhaps he just doesn’t like me anymore, or his ex appeared again? Or he was taken away by the members of the alien tribe Anunnaki to model his prototype artificial intelligence?
There are only two rules:
Rule no1: Love relationships can be divided into two categories: I want, or I will not.
Rule no1: The most significant suffering is in the corridor between. This corridor is a place where feelings are average or one person has stronger feelings than the other one.
In this corridor we can hear things like this: “he didn’t call me, but I know he is interested”, “he flirts with me, but we still are not in a relationship” or “he loves me, but we are on snooze… couple years”.
IF YOU ARE OK WITH THIS LIFE IN FRUSTRATION – JUST GO AHEAD! THIS ZONE IS PERFECT PLACE FOR BAD ASSESSMENTS AND INCOMPLETE RELATIONS.
This is a place for manipulation, drama, playing games, sadness and fury, sleepless nights and feeling of failure, competition, and not enough love.
You can have fun for years in this zone. Just be prepared, if you get stuck in it, you will stop beehive sooner or later and start dealing with someone else’s behavior all the time.
Perhaps you occasionally find yourself smart, and this is all so exciting, but let me tell you, my good ones: if you are in this interlude – it seems that you have already seriously missed the essence.
Why doesn’t he call if he likes me? Because of the rule “Oh, yes!” or “O, no!”
There is no between. There is, but as I said – the wrong place to be. This idea applies to many life areas. Some guy wrote that you should do things in the work that you immediately say OH YES. This worked for him in the business world, so why we would not try it in the world of relationships.
Let’s do it realistically: would you hang out with someone who does not want to hang out with you? Would you eat foods that make you sick?
SO WHY THEN YOU WANT SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT WANT TO BE WITH? WHERE IS your SELF-ESTEEM?
This rule should begin to apply the moment you meet someone. If you do not feel awkward: “Oh yes, I have to be with this person” – do not be with her/him. If you do not have the impression that this person is burning with you – go on. Don’t take a little bit. You’re not a bird.
Perhaps this sounds idealistic, but the application of this rule has many advantages.
- You will not be stuck with someone who isn’t interested in you.
- You will not be with someone who manipulates or playing games with you or makes you do something that you do not really like.
- You will not be an “ego charger” for people who don’t care about you.
- You will not send messages from the club and drunk at 3 am. If a guy wanted, he would be here, next to you.
- You will put healthy and energetic boundaries. Such boundaries do not make you an overwhelming person but make you more confident and more attractive.
- You will stop wasting your time.
THE POINT IS: BOTH OF YOU MUST BE IN THE “OH YES” PHASE OF THE SAME THING. OTHERWISE, IT IS ALL A WASTE OF TIME.
Attractive (not only physically but intellectually and spiritually) people with a high level of self-esteem do not have time for people who are not thrilled to be with them, nor have time for people around whom they are not enthusiastic. So do not waste your time in this needy area. You do not have that much time. Your choices should be OH YES, or they are simply NO.
p.s. For those that nobody ever says OH YES
If all the people you know about you have a lukewarm answer or refuse you – then it’s time to start thinking about why this is so. You have to ask yourself – what do you have to offer what would make people say OH yes. If you are not sure, then obviously everything is wrong, and you have to build at least something. I mean, would you say to yourself, YES?
p.s. For those who never tell anyone OH YEAH
You know – it’s your job to find something great in people, not their responsibility to impress you. Of course, this does not mean that you need to fall in love with anyone who finds you, by the way, it just means that you should take responsibility for what no one likes you. It’s not up to them – it’s up to you.